Opening to happiness

It was the perfect opportunity for a meltdown, had I wanted one. New to town, I had missed my exit three times, driving back and forth on that pot-holed strip of I-5 in Seattle between 520 and I-90, late at night, in the pouring rain, after a long day of work and an evening workshop,…

Move beyond staying positive

I recently spoke with a man struggling to stay positive within his workplace. Several months earlier he had committed to changing his attitude. He had spent too many years complaining with coworkers and leaving the office at the end of the day emotionally exhausted. He didn’t want to be part of the toxicity that permeates his work group anymore.…

Untangling strong emotions

When I work with groups in conflict, my goal is to help them talk candidly about the issues that matter most to them. Yet breakthroughs in understanding occur after people untangle their emotions. Emotions are the key to unlocking what we believe  and what we can accomplish together. Yet often we think of strong emotional experiences…

Working with emotions in the room

I recently conducted a team building workshop for a group of employees experiencing rapid, massive change in their organization. Teams that had worked together for years were ending. Some people were leaving the organization. Others were staying, but losing longtime relationships and familiar surroundings as they transitioned into new teams and new locations. I asked…